Don't have any wise platitudes and confident phrases today....
Sometimes I can have spent time with people and not have been touched in that deep place that yearns so much to be nurtured... like at my group break up today...
When is it time to reach out? and when is it time to sit with the loneliness and know that this is part of life... certainly a big part of my life?
And, I'm tired... what use is that?
Hmmmmm.........
Often tele doesn't cut it either.............
Sometimes it is what it is. Other times we can try to do things differently and it makes for change. I think it is okay any time to reach out, knowing that the deep place may sometimes remain in its lonely place. If there has been a group break up for the year (perhaps break up is an unfortunate expression in itself?), it is an opportunity to find other outlets. Can the Summer period be a time to rest and nourish your tired body and also to do other things.
ReplyDeleteReaching out does not preclude periods of sitting with your loneliness. Even making meaningful connections (I hope you do) may run parallel to acknowledging your loneliness.
Something we talked about in meditation this week was about more impartial observation of the self. So there might be a pit stop (ugly term) during the day where one observes "am I okay?", "am I relaxed, stressed", "what is my breathing like right now?" and just know it without judging one's self.
ReplyDeleteJust a thought. You might want to consider making a self box. You choose a box and decorate it to reflect the inner and outer you. It is a really useful exercise to learn more about yourself and to feel okay with it. I did two in art therapy and am about to do a ME at Christmas one. The inside is the inner you (it might be about the loneliness) and the outside is the outside you that people see. I was thinking about making a Christmas tree, but I thought another self box might be more meaningful for me.
This is the self box that I made in March this year: http://a3.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/231158_220645024614630_111570778855389_914795_1885546_n.jpg
Thanks so much Ann for both your thoughts, sensitivity and suggestions. I have done a self box before, but hadn't thought of doing another one around this Christmas New Year period.
ReplyDeleteI know that taking the pit stop to check out how I am is important and do try and do that, often in the afternoon, when I come home from my morning's activities... My counsellor has helped me a lot with awareness and skills around that process, but I still have a long way to go...
Don't we all? ;-)
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